As I was watching my dog snuffle around the garden this morning, I began to think about signs. How the things we see that we pass off as coincidence can often be something sent to us, to reassure us in some way. How they can, though, also alert us to the mindset we are in and how we are perhaps holding on too tightly to the things we want.
The reason I thought about this was because I saw a robin shoot over the garden and land briefly on a tree branch before flying off again out of sight. I have often associated robins with my beloved grandfather, as a sign that he is nearby watching over me and it is said that robins – and birds generally – are messengers from the spirit world. And it really got me thinking. It’s been a while now since I desperately sought signs that everything in my life was going to be okay. Not because everything is okay but because I’ve relaxed into trusting the process. And I wondered if talking about signs as the ‘gurus’ do is actually helpful or if we could look at them another way – as a barometer of our mindset.
I have spent an inordinate amount of time over the last, I don’t know, let’s say two years looking for a sign that my life was going to even out. That the apparently insurmountable problems that were stacking up in my life were going to be eased in some way. Any kind of sign, I wasn’t especially fussy but robins were one omen for me. And numbers. I used to obsessively look for certain numbers, telling myself when I saw them that it was a sign but then obsessively looking for another sign, and another. Because I had been told that the universe/God/Source/Divine, whatever we want to call it, sends us signs to let us know things are okay. And it does. Constantly. It is always communicating with us, it just depends on how we receive that communication. Which depends on our mindset.
The ‘gurus’ don’t really tell you this bit. That if you are desperately clinging on to seeing signs, if that is all you are focused on because you’re on the edge, it is far from helpful. In fact, it is the absolute opposite. The part they don’t tell you is that if you are looking for them, you are really looking for external validation. You are not trusting the process, you are not in a state of surrender, instead you are still in a state of trying to control the outcome and not looking internally for the answers. You have externalised and the solution is rarely ever outside us. In fact, I would say it is never outside us.
When we look for signs, you are externalising. When we see them by apparent coincidence, that is the universe/God/Source/Divine sending them to us. I know the difference. I used to obsessively look for repeating numbers, scour cars for their number plates. Look at the clock for 11:11. Look out for particular cars (a purple Ford Escort). That’s not seeing signs, that’s obsession. That’s not trusting the process, it’s the complete opposite. It is a lack of faith because no amount of signs reassured me. Nothing reassured me. Because my mindset was one of complete lack. I was emitting such a low vibration that all I was doing was reinforcing to myself that I was in lack. Not that the problems I was experiencing were all going to be solved. And that is where the universe/God/Source/Divine met me at. Which reinforced my lack in the 3D. All the things I wanted to manifest so that the ‘worst didn’t happen’ didn’t manifest – the worst that could happen did instead. I was actually manifesting absolutely perfectly. Just the opposite of what I wanted.
My mindset now is very different. I don’t look for signs anymore, which isn’t a conscious decision. I just don’t do it. I don’t need to because I trust the process. I have surrendered and know that everything is going to work out in my favour because, realistically, it is already in a myriad of different ways. But that doesn’t mean I don’t see the signs, I do. Not because I am actively seeking them out but because they come to me in a way I can’t miss like the robin this morning. Like the purple Ford Fiesta I saw on my walk this morning. I wasn’t looking for either, I was daydreaming when I came across both but I saw them because I really couldn’t miss them. The universe/God/Source/ Divine made sure of that. That is what is meant by signs.
So, if you are desperately looking for signs that things are going to be okay, stop. Examine your state of mind, your mindset. And acknowledge that it’s not in a healthy place. That what you are looking for is not outside of you, it’s inside you.
If you feel you need help with this, please do not hesitate to reach out to me. I offer a free one-hour discovery call where I will spend some time helping you with your mindset, helping you to start the process of re-setting it and your nervous system. You can email me on hello@louisasimpson.com to set up your free call and we can go forward from there. Getting your mindset in the right place is the foundation for peace of mind and the life you want to lead.
Louisa Simpson 